A not so happy Father’s Day

Father’s day has never been a good and joyous time for me. It usually falls on my birthday and the whole buying a present on your birthday never seemed fair. I love my dad but it never was right in my eyes to be giving a gift on a day that was supposed to be about me.

Now as we approach Father’s Day and gather at mom and dad’s it might be a time that we say ‘goodbye’ to dad for the last time. My dad is nearing the end and it has been a long tough adventure, especially for mom. I have watched her age 10 years in the last 6 months. It is sad to see both my parents suffer.

I look back on the past realizing dad did the best he knew how to do. He provided for his family physically by getting us what we needed. He taught us about working hard and fighting for what you believe in. And the right will always come out on top. He ruined us by dragging us to church and giving us morals and values.

I look back in thankfulness of the life lessons dad taught me. I also am saddened that this might be the last Father’s Day.


6 Thoughts

  1. This reminds me of when my grandmother passed. My uncle said “I don’t want anything from their house. I already got what I needed in their faith and the lessons they taught me.”

    1. This is my first Father’s Day without Dad. He passed away last month at 84 yrs of age. I have not completely reckoned with all this yet, but I know the void is real and deeper than I could have ever imagined at times. I take much comfort in knowing he is home with the Lord and this knowledge keeps me moving forward. I was blessed to have a solitary moment alone with him before he passed and I was able to pour my heart out. I pray God gives you an opportunity like that as well if He hasn’t already.

  2. Today has been 7 Father’s Day’s that I have not been able to give my dad a hug or tell him I love him. I pastor a church that my Father pastored before he passed away. Each Father’s Day I stand where he stood for 14 years telling people about Jesus. It is impossible to not think about that while speaking. I understand the pain that you are feeling and I know that it will not be an easy road but you will find that God is faithful to you and will strengthen you even during the most difficult times. I pray that God continues to reveal to you the person you are for the impact your dad has made by sharing Jesus with you and that you will find that even when God decides it is time to take HIm hom, and when you find yourself missing him dearly, the legacy he will leave for you will encourage you. I am sorry that this day is not easier for you!

  3. Saying goodbye to each one of my parents has been by far the most difficult thing that I have ever done. It has been almost 5 years for dad and 4 for my mom. However, I can look back and see that it has also been the most beautiful time of my life also! I, like you, was able to honor my parents and the life lessons that were instilled in us through their everyday lives. My dad was the Godliest man that I have ever known and there is not a day that passes that I do not recall something that he taught me (regardless of whether or not that I wanted to learn it!) and am able to apply it to my life. Capture as many memories as possible while you have the opportunity because those memories are what have sustained me often! As far as your bday falling on Fathers Day…..well, I got nothin….:) Happy Bday btw!

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